7 WAYS TO DE-STRESS & GROUND YOURSELF
Published by Elephant Journal ~ November 16, 2015
In a world where we constantly push ourselves to do more, and are expected to be available to anyone 24/7 due to modern technology, it’s no wonder so many of us are often sick, run down, overwhelmed, drinking too much or trying to medicate to relax and take the edge off.
We’re expected to be “on” at all times for our bosses, colleagues, friends and children, with very little time to slow down and actually think.
Not thinking is what gets us into trouble.
In the pursuit of “doing,” we often stop “feeling,” and when we stop feeling, we start repressing a lot of crap.
It’s times like this where we break down because we are so disconnected from ourselves and what we are feeling. It’s also a time where we start feeling a ton of anxiety, anxiousness, lack of focus and lack of energy. We can’t figure out why, but more often than not it’s because we aren’t grounded.
8 WAYS TO MANAGE CHRONIC FATIGUE AND EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION
Published by Elephant Journal ~ April 3, 2015
In our technology-driven world where we are now expected to always be available via text, email or phone, it’s almost impossible to just disconnect and be at rest.
But rest may be the thing we need now more than ever.
More and more people I know are suffering from emotional exhaustion, stress-induced illnesses and chronic fatigue. Often unconscious of what brought it on or what to do to fix it, thousands of us are going about our days on the brink of physical collapse and unable to keep up with the daily demands of our days.
The first time I was knocked on my ass with chronic fatigue was in my early 30’s when I was working in film production. Years of operating in a high pressure, high stress, environment with tight deadlines, constant changes and very little downtime started to take its toll on me.
5 Simple Things We Can Do Everyday to Reconnect to Ourselves
Published by The Chopra Center ~ August 4, 2015
Many women pride themselves on being consummate multitaskers. By noon on a Saturday, they’ve wrapped up 10 different projects and tasks.
I was one of those women until I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome at the age of 33. It was only then that I started to re-evaluate my life and learn how to slow down. My a-ha moment came while working with a life coach who asked me what I thought my greatest strengths were. When I listed, “a great multitasker,” she asked, “Are you sure that’s a strength?”
Wow. How many of you think multitasking is a positive attribute?
We juggle multiple to-do lists for the home, kids, and work. By the time we’ve paid the bills, cleaned our homes, finished the laundry, chauffeured the kids to play dates, games, and birthday parties, is there any time left for us?
There can be.
It’s essential that we, as women, put our oxygen masks on first so that we can breathe in the event of an in-flight emergency. We need to slow down, reconnect to our centers, listen to our bodies, and get in tune with what’s going on in our lives.
5 DAILY PRACTICES TO FEELING “GOOD ENOUGH”
Published by Huffington Post ~ April 3, 2015
My friend and “soul brother” asked me a really challenging question recently that forced me do some real inner work: “What does being GOOD ENOUGH look like to you, separate from what anyone else thinks?”
That was a really tough question. Because up to this point, I have always based me being “good enough” at anything whether it be my job, my parenting skills, or my romantic relationships on what other people thought, instead of what I knew to be true. So I’ve developed 5 daily practices to feeling “good enough” separate from what anyone else thinks of me:
WHAT I LEARNED THROUGH MEDITATION
Published by Huffington Post ~ March 25, 2015
If you’re like me and most busy women, finding time to meditate can seem almost impossible. I sometimes joked I should be meditating just so I’d stop stressing out about meditating! With a full-time job, a daily two-hour commute and two small children (one about to enter the terrible twos soon), meditation is not a luxury on my “to do” list — but a necessity like breathing.
The year 2014 brought about many unexpected and unwanted changes in my life. I was in a very deep process of grief and loss, and I was searching hard for peace and acceptance in what had happened. Meditation became my saving grace; the place I went to when the noise in my head was so loud, I couldn’t hear myself think; the place I surrendered to when the anger and rage was coursing through me and I could hardly breathe; the thing I did when I found myself in the car crying hysterically because the pain was so overwhelming. Meditating infused air into my lungs and quieted my soul… until I was able to reconnect to my center.
Reaching Out For Help When Life Gets Tough
Published by Having Time ~ February 11, 2015
“Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning when you’re trying to be everyone else’s anchor.”
I come from a family of resilient people. Meaning, we were raised to be strong, self-sufficient and resourceful human beings. My parents never came right out and said that asking for help was a sign of weakness, but somewhere in my upbringing I took on the story that if I asked forhelp, I was putting somebody else out, so I just didn’t do it.
As I grew into a young woman, I had certain areas of my life where I shined… landing great jobs, excelling in my career, managing my money, being a good friend and taking care of others.
I rarely needed to ask for help with any of these things, because I had this stuff DOWN my friend and I was proud of it!
My friends often said to me, “You have it so together all the time. I feel like you always go after what you want, get it and don’t let anything hold you back.”
This was true. I’m a go-getter. I’m determined and persistent. But I don’t always have my sh** together like people think.
Emotionally and in relationships… I needed help.
Emotionally and in relationships… I needed help. I didn’t always make the best choices. My need to “be needed” and “take care of others” led me to choose romantic partners that were not always good for me.
My ego that got off on being the best at everything led me to people and situations that challenged me in ways I didn’t want or need to be challenged.